There was a scene in a movie once where Robert Redford’s character talks about seeing a pretty girl on the subway that he wanted to talk to but was too shy as a boy to do so. When he gets off the subway, she looks right at him and flashes him the biggest smile as the doors close. He goes back every night at the same time for two weeks but never sees her again. He says that not a day goes by that he doesn’t think about her and that missed opportunity.
He did not have the confidence to approach her, and with that smile she told him that she wished he had.
I believe this happens all the time–men wishing they had the courage to talk to a beautiful stranger. Women wishing they would!
Women want men with confidence. It is at the top of their list of requirements. You must set aside weakness and fear and just go for it! Even if you are not her cup of tea, she will appreciate the compliment of your attention. No cheesy, cocky lines are needed—just a sincere and warm greeting: “Hi, I couldn’t help but notice that you look amazing in that dress (or shoes or whatever).” In line at Starbucks, why not offer to buy her a cup? Us women are dying for men to be men and step it up, take charge, and say hello instead of shyly glancing repeatedly at us in the Whole Foods checkout line.
And here’s the key–do it as if it doesn’t matter what her response is. Some people like brussel sprouts and some people don’t! So just because you are not her particular flavor does not mean you won’t be delicious to another woman. Don’t take it personally. NEXT! There will always be another cutie to talk to. And practice makes perfect; flirt till it becomes effortless. You will be so confident; you can talk to anyone, anywhere, anytime with no obvious nervousness, no desperation. You are a Modern Gladiator—a gentleman first—you are always polite, sweet, attentive, and courteous. But BRAVE! Women notice these men.
Confidence is the sexiest thing about a man. It is the key in business and in dating. Even if a man is not classically handsome, if he is well dressed, in great shape, and moves with ease, a woman will find him extremely appealing. Women look for strength—mental and physical. It is a primal desire. Women are drawn to men who react as if they can handle whatever comes their way. It is very sexy! And reassuring. We want you to be able to take care of things just like men did back in the day, protecting us, providing for us, and keeping us safe. We are strong now too, but we still want you to be stronger.
So be direct, communicate, and be open. If you are attracted to her, tell her! If you want a second date, ASK! Open the door for a stranger, make eye contact, smile, shoot her a compliment: “You have such a pretty smile.” Get her attention with ease.
The modern gladiator goes after what he wants without hesitation—but in a respectful way, and he is not put off by rejection. So go for it. You get one chance. Live your life with no regrets. Don’t find yourself wishing you had what it takes to talk to the pretty girl. Just do it!